Category: The Psychotherapy Relationship

The Invisible Child

I’ve always struggled with the term attachment, used in my profession to denote the relationship that is supposed to develop between mother and infant during the earliest months of life. I may be too concrete, but it makes me think of those poor monkeys in Harlow’s experiment, clinging to that cloth-covered metal skeleton; it seems… Continue reading The Invisible Child

Bearing Witness and Being Seen

Many features of the psychotherapy relationship contribute to growth and psychological “healing” to the extent it is possible. In an earlier post about attachment theory, I discussed the importance of the emotional bond between client and therapist for development, especially the therapist’s ability to empathize with and ultimately feel genuine affection for his or her… Continue reading Bearing Witness and Being Seen

‘Hard’ and ‘Soft’ as Character Traits

I haven’t written a post in two weeks — unusual for me — because during that period, I have felt almost overwhelmed by the events in my life, mostly enjoyable and of great meaning to me: my oldest son’s 21st birthday, my middle child’s high school graduation, my daughter’s promotion from middle school, two flights… Continue reading ‘Hard’ and ‘Soft’ as Character Traits