Self-Pity

“Being a victim is more palatable than having to recognize the intrinsic contradictions of one’s own governing philosophy.” — Tom Clancy, The Hunt for Red October “Self-pity is easily the most destructive of the non-pharmaceutical narcotics; it is addictive, gives momentary pleasure and separates the victim from reality.” — John Gardner “He did not know… Continue reading Self-Pity

The Difference Between Anger and Hatred

In preparation for my appearance later today on Sandy Weiner’s BlogTalkRadio program Courageous Conversations, I’ve been thinking about anger and hatred. Sandy and I will be discussing how to cope with the eruption of hatred in our intimate relationships and I needed to clarify how hatred differs from anger. We can distinguish between anger and… Continue reading The Difference Between Anger and Hatred

Rage and Entitlement in Borderline Personality Disorder

In working with people who suffer from borderline personality disorder, you may often feel deeply hostile toward your clients; you need to use that feeling to understand their murderous rage, their inability to tolerate frustrate and their desire to take over and possess you.